Shifting Gears
Thursday, June 17th, 2010
We began thinking about moving to Costa Rica very seriously three months ago. Things seemed to be opening in that direction. I partnered with a wonderful new friend to run Yoga/Meditation Retreats in Atenas, Costa Rica this November. I began researching and discovering all sorts of support already in place thus leading me to believe moving to Costa Rica was our path.
Six days ago I came down to Costa Rica to begin setting the retreats in motion and life shifted again. The reality of being a gringo in a third world country become stunning disappointing. Just by my white skin alone – I am assumed by Ticos (Costa Rican citizens) to be rich and the prices are automatically doubled. By Tico standards of living (a family salary of roughly $12,000 a year) we are quite wealthy. Anyone coming down to Costa Rica is considered wealthy by that standard, hence Ticos believe you can afford anything.
And here is the other cultural reality, they lie all the time because confrontation is frowned upon in this society. Ticos prefer to make up stories, telling you what you want to hear, instead of the truth that very well may disappoint. Ughh. I’m not even going to go into their sense of service (sloooooooow) or time…two hours late is normal.
Have you ever read Eat, Pray, Love? Horrible book in my opinion except for the part about different cultures and ‘taking advantage.’ Here in Costa Rica, Ticos double prices for gringos because they have so little – just try living on $12,000 a year…The doubling of prices is not an act of cruelty or malice, it’s really survival (think Maslow’s theory.) Although I understand this, for me, it is unacceptable to live in community where deception is status quo. I would forever be on guard. Ughhhh.
For the past several years I have been connecting to more Goddess energy – softer, non-confrontational, peaceful resolution. I want to be soft and loving, not on guard…Hence I have been very sad these past few days as reality meets the dream and the path can not be a permanent move Costa Rica at this moment. Third world countries aren’t Disney and Tinker-bell isn’t flying through fireworks every night at ten. So I have had to shift and accept the truth sometimes the dream cannot be reality…A tough pill to swallow at any age.
As my taxi this morning drove me to the airport I received a call. It was my other driver, Walter, who had taken me all over Costa Rica with my new business partner/friend as we looked and found retreat spots. Walter is amazing, completely trustworthy and honest. He wanted to wish me well on my travels and let me know how kind/wonderful he thought I was…I thought to myself – what a great business man AND most importantly, I heard what spirit was trying to tell me – there are good people everywhere. Here their need is greater then mine – things are muddy when people are hungry…and I can still see through the muck to the beautiful places and people that are the Costa Rica I fell in love with. So I will be a forever visitor and not a permanent residence…Not such a bad deal.
Hmmmm, guess this means Spirit has other plans…can’t wait to see what unfolds! With that, I’m off to Sonoma, Ca. this weekend for more business and pleasure. This is an abundant life, warts and all. How blessed am I??? Brilliantly!!! Thank You GOD!
Morale: Focus on the good, be willing to shift if need be and Trust the path will open again.







