4.  Are you trying to keep it the same?  Why?  Does the cost seem too great to make a change?  Does it seem impossible?  Are you afraid of hurting someone else if you do shift? 

 Whether you like it or not, this is your life.  Right here, right now.  When you place the needs of others always before your own, guess what?  You are always last on the list – your list and everyone else’s too.  You are teaching yourself and all around you that you come last. 

 Of course, there are times when it is appropriate to place the needs of others in front of your own, but you would be surprised by how few and far between this is in normal every day life.  People are not infants forever and illness, well, this is tricky, but I assure you, you just you, whether a caregiver or a patient, need to put your own needs at the top of your own list.  We all serve best from a place of fullness, not lack…

 How about if when you place the needs of others in front of your own – this does not inherently mean you are last?  Maybe move yourself down to second of third?  Do you run into any hang-ups or negative thoughts?  Around deserving, enough or possibly love?  Well now, you are getting to the foundation of the problem – what do you want and what if you deserved it?  What is stopping you? 

3.  Notice the word my in the above question, my truth.  It’s no doubt you are relaying the facts as you experience them, but are you feeling them?  Are you really listening to that internal voice that is naggingly right?  Are you going along to get along instead of voicing your own needs?

 Sometimes in life we find ourselves in unexpected places.  It didn’t just happen, there were many choices and compromises made along the way that lead to this less-than place, and even though you may not have intended it, you are here.  

 Instead of blaming or getting angry that someone else isn’t showing up the way you would like, ask yourself, what do I want?  I’m betting you don’t have an easy answer to that, but you can probably tell me what you don’t want.  Your focus needs to shift from what you don’t want (this thinking only attracts what you don’t want – where your thoughts focus, things expand…) to what you do want.  Begin making a list or dreaming about what you do want. 

 More importantly begin taking responsibility for your own dreams coming true.  Yes, those around you can support and love you, but you and you alone are the writer of your own life.  Players come and go, but you continue to create your life every day. 

2.  Ok, you’ve identified you are in a pattern, now it’s time to look at your part – what are you doing the same?  Stop with the reasons why you are doing it the same and just focus on your part.  There is no one person to blame. 

 For a pattern to be established everyone has to go along with their part over and over again – especially if it’s a negative pattern.  The reason you are always broke isn’t because the universe is out to get you, it’s because not only do you make the same poor money decisions over and over, but you also believe yourself to be someone who is always broke.  The universe is just showing up how you believe it to be.  (Tip: Got to change your belief…)    

 As I have previously said, it does not do you any good to berate yourself for not getting it yet – you will.  To change anything it takes practice and time.  You have to intentionally respond differently to the same problems. This takes energy and a commitment to being present – you are not going to respond how you always have.

 It won’t feel normal at first to respond differently and that’s ok.  Some people around you may not like you changing the pattern and that’s ok too.  When you are ready, you will make a change.  For the alternative – staying in this less-than place – becomes more and more unacceptable as the days pass… 

There are times in your life when surrender is the only path to peace.  You have done all you can do and the circumstances are beyond your control.  Today, begin to surrender with meditation…

Please enjoy this guided meditation.  I wanted to provide you a way to quickly ground yourself and provide an easy pathway to peace no what kind of holiday kookiness is unfolding around you…Peace be with you.   

Today we are going to try a technique I call active meditation.  This technique guides you into total relaxation as we unlock your own unique gifts.  Discover real answers and support on your path to peace.  Come, let’s begin our journey… 

If you are struggling with where you are in your life right now – I invite you to examine your inner dialog.  What are you thinking about?  Are you worrying?  Are you what-if-ing your days away?  Are you flexible? 

 Maybe you’ve tried manifesting exercises before with what you thought was little success, but guess what?  I’m betting it worked – just not the way you wanted it too. 

 Manifesting isn’t about doing certain exercises or meditations (although they can help!) it’s about your inner dialog.  Are you lifting yourself up or pushing yourself down?  Worry attracts more things to worry about.  Positive thinking leads to possibilities.  Thoughts really do expand.

 Again I invite you to look at your own inner dialog – are you berating yourself for things left undone?  Are you patient?  Do you give yourself a break or are you a relentless perfectionist?  Are you complaining your life away?  Is it someone else’s fault?  Regrets?  Are you calling yourself names?  Do you feel good about life?

 Guess what?  It starts with you.  Somehow, someway you have to make a shift.  What is one thing you can do today to improve your inner dialog?

 Suggestions: 1.       Cues -  place words or pictures around your home and workspace to remind yourself of peace, trust, love…

2.       When you discover yourself complaining – shift your language without yelling at yourself, “Why can’t I do better?”

3.       Journal.

4.       Guided meditation – try I Meet Success or my free download, My Best Self.

5.       Laugh more – it’s a lot easier to be flexible when you are happy.  Connect to friends, watch silly movies (Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Universe), read funny books (anything by David Sedaris) or simply, play.  What did you like to do as a kid and can you do that now?  

 Real change is not waving a magic wand or overnight decisions.  Real change is many, many steps.  It is not sexy or exciting – it’s breaking a habit.  Sometimes one of our bad habits is negative thinking.  It takes time to shift your language just because it takes time for a new language to integrate into your thoughts.  How many years have you been thinking in a certain way and now you would like a new way? 

 Relax, have patience with yourself – you are on you way…

Halloween is over and the holidays are approaching again.  Sometimes, during the transition into the holidays, your positive focus can be drawn back into old patterns and not enough worries.  Maybe you start worrying about money or impending family events.  Possibly your sleep is being disrupted with sleeplessness or nightmares.  It could be that your diet has shifted – either eating more or less depending on your own specific reaction to stress.  It could be that you are beginning to trigger into old ways…

 Ask yourself – are you too involved in the lives of others instead of what’s going on in your life?  Are you waiting for someone or something to act thus transforming your life or so you think?  Are you replaying scenes in your mind over and over of events to come or even of past events?  Are you spinning?  Guess what?  It’s time to get your power back by returning the focus back to you and here’s how…

 1.         Spend time alone.  Maybe meditate, go for a walk, clean-up the garden for winter, fish, go for a bike ride, take a bath, anything, just be with you, no computer, no making meals or cleaning up after anyone, just alone with you and your thoughts.  If you start spinning with too much in your head – try guided meditation.  This can lead you out of a harried place to peace – quickly and easily. 

2.         Acquire a new skill – what interests you?  Maybe you want to learn to knit, or try the Rosetta Stone and pick up a new language at home. How about learning to mountain bike or snowboard this winter.  Begin to expand into new frontiers.  Doing this helps you become more energetically solid from the inside out.

3.         Make decisions and set deadlines.  I have discovered the best way to get the universe to act is to start making plans.  Remember everyone does not need to know and/or approve of your decisions/deadlines.  Use discernment in deciding when and to whom to reveal your plans to.  Beware the naysayers.

4.         Live authentically – journal.  Sometimes your own worst enemy is yourself.  You can make yourself crazy with worry or simply avoid the truth staring you in the face.  Journaling helps you to release the ego and connect to your own truth – both good and bad.  It can take the heat out of your emotions and reveal your concerns, fears, even joys in a manageable way.

5.         Make time for your friends.  Friendships can get lost in busy lifestyles and unfortunately, you live less abundantly for it.  Good friends easily help you connect to your own true self again and who better to laugh with?  Go for walks, meet for tea, make some phone calls and connect to who you were before a busy life crowds in.

 Returning the focus to you, allows not only you to live more freely but allows others to be who they are as well.  When you are in tune with your own wants and needs, the agendas and pressures of others – even family – are felt less.  Help yourself through this holiday season by staying centered and balanced – listen to yourself. 

Today we are going to discuss past lives and you will even discover how a specific past life is affecting your life today.  Recently the subject of past lives has been popping up everywhere for me – both positively and negatively and often, amusingly…discover new ways to unlock your life today. 

Learn how  to unlock your own manifesting style.  First off – let’s remember each person manifests best in their own certain way – that is – there is no right way or wrong, just your own best way, which may take a little time to figure out. Hence here are a few places to start…happy listening!