Halloween is over and the holidays are approaching again.  Sometimes, during the transition into the holidays, your positive focus can be drawn back into old patterns and not enough worries.  Maybe you start worrying about money or impending family events.  Possibly your sleep is being disrupted with sleeplessness or nightmares.  It could be that your diet has shifted – either eating more or less depending on your own specific reaction to stress.  It could be that you are beginning to trigger into old ways…

 Ask yourself – are you too involved in the lives of others instead of what’s going on in your life?  Are you waiting for someone or something to act thus transforming your life or so you think?  Are you replaying scenes in your mind over and over of events to come or even of past events?  Are you spinning?  Guess what?  It’s time to get your power back by returning the focus back to you and here’s how…

 1.         Spend time alone.  Maybe meditate, go for a walk, clean-up the garden for winter, fish, go for a bike ride, take a bath, anything, just be with you, no computer, no making meals or cleaning up after anyone, just alone with you and your thoughts.  If you start spinning with too much in your head – try guided meditation.  This can lead you out of a harried place to peace – quickly and easily. 

2.         Acquire a new skill – what interests you?  Maybe you want to learn to knit, or try the Rosetta Stone and pick up a new language at home. How about learning to mountain bike or snowboard this winter.  Begin to expand into new frontiers.  Doing this helps you become more energetically solid from the inside out.

3.         Make decisions and set deadlines.  I have discovered the best way to get the universe to act is to start making plans.  Remember everyone does not need to know and/or approve of your decisions/deadlines.  Use discernment in deciding when and to whom to reveal your plans to.  Beware the naysayers.

4.         Live authentically – journal.  Sometimes your own worst enemy is yourself.  You can make yourself crazy with worry or simply avoid the truth staring you in the face.  Journaling helps you to release the ego and connect to your own truth – both good and bad.  It can take the heat out of your emotions and reveal your concerns, fears, even joys in a manageable way.

5.         Make time for your friends.  Friendships can get lost in busy lifestyles and unfortunately, you live less abundantly for it.  Good friends easily help you connect to your own true self again and who better to laugh with?  Go for walks, meet for tea, make some phone calls and connect to who you were before a busy life crowds in.

 Returning the focus to you, allows not only you to live more freely but allows others to be who they are as well.  When you are in tune with your own wants and needs, the agendas and pressures of others – even family – are felt less.  Help yourself through this holiday season by staying centered and balanced – listen to yourself.