Being successful is no far off place. It is probably closer then you think, but, at this vantage point in your life it may feel a million miles away. Ask yourself, do you have the mindset to see the opportunities to your best life? Being successful is not about always making the “right” move every time, but about maximizing all your moves.
Once you’ve lived past thirty, you can finally get a little perspective on your life. If you really look at your life, there is a pattern. Even the mistakes, the “wrong” choices, taught you lessons. You may not have enjoyed the process, but you can see the benefits in the chaos – the so called “silver lining.”
Sometimes delay is a good thing. During delays you often acquire more knowledge and experience, laying a foundation for your future success. However, it is during these delays that I believe people can veer off the path by becoming frustrated in the process.
Whether it’s losing faith in your product, yourself or the old “not enough time”, here are some suggestions that have helped my clients to remain on the path to success and may they support you…
Believe in yourself and your product. This is where it all begins – you. How is your self-esteem or self-confidence? If you don’t think well of yourself, no one else will, plain and simple. Which of course, will transfer to your product and you will miss opportunities. So how you feel about yourself matters and directly impacts your success. If this is an issue for you, try saying to yourself five different times a day, “I believe in myself. Success enters my life easily and effortlessly from all around me.” It may feel awkward at first, but soon you will notice a calming effect.
You deserve success. How did that feel when you read this? Any twinges? If so, this is also an area to examine. Not only do you need to believe in yourself, but you have to feel worthy of success too – back to you again. You may try adding, “I deserve and accept a beautiful life,” to your daily mantra above to help support a new, deserving belief in your life.
Have a plan. It’s all well and good to believe that you deserve success, but what does that mean? What would success look like to you and what are the steps to get there? This is a big hurdle for many because it requires putting your words into action. Just as your thoughts and intensions call new opportunities to you, you must be willing to act upon their arrival. For example, maybe you want a new job making more money. There are steps between today and a new job. Do you know what these are? Do you need more education? Have you looked in the paper or online? Think about what success is to you and then write it out. Include the steps to achieve the success you desire. Then each day, do one thing to move you in that direction – read an article, make a phone call, research, whatever, at least one a day. You will notice your life shifting, easily and effortlessly almost, into a new, more successful direction.
Be flexible. This may seem a little confusing at first, but it kind of goes to the old saying, “Once you make plans, life happens.” This is very true fortunately, so stay open. Let me explain. Once you shift your belief system to a successful mindset – you attract success. Things that were blocked before come flying into your life. This, in turn, disrupts your “plans” – well, maybe not. Sometimes, you discover your plans were too small and life has something better in store for you…So stay flexible, be ready to expand into the fullness of life as it unfolds.
Use your fears to balance yourself. Whenever you get really close to success, fear walks in the door, almost its final hurrah. Fear hides as doubts, anxiety, sleeplessness, certain people, the list goes on and on…but I now see fear as an opportunity. Fear to me is an indicator of imbalance which means I need support. Sometimes I can give this to myself through meditation and prayer, but sometimes it means I need to reach out to my husband, friend or a mentor for encouragement and reassurance. Find a support system for yourself as you transition to this new life.
Finally, remember patience and courage — the patience to allow yourself the opportunity to transform your life to its fullest potential and the courage to walk and stumble through that transformation.
Years ago a friend whispered, “Courage,” in my ear during a pivotal time in my life. I can still remember the strength hearing that word vibrated through my body. Courage, not condescending, “It’ll be ok. Don’t worry,” but strong and faithful courage. It actually helped me to be a little more patient too. So I offer you courage, as you discover your path to a successful, abundant life.
Meditation sounds so evolved, so Eastern philosophy, “way out there.” But I’ll tell you a secret; it works. Through meditation, I am able to bring into my life today that which I seek, be it peace or abundance.
This isn’t a new concept. Oprah has been talking about “The Secret” all year. By focusing your thoughts on a specific issue or desire, you bring it into your life. For me, it is during meditation I am able to manifest my best self and bring that force into my life today.
Years ago, when someone first suggested meditation to me, it seemed too hard. How could I possibly focus on one thing and be quiet? I imagined myself sitting in a room with a flickering candle, soft new age music in the background and smiling like a lunatic. Are you kidding me? Not likely. However, the concept achieving a quiet mind through meditation was still very attractive to me as I struggled constantly with a busy, worrying mind. Then I found guided meditation.
Guided meditation differs from other meditation practices, because you are verbally led throughout the experience. The “experience” being at the core for me as I can finally be free of my incessantly thinking mind by concentrating on the unfolding meditation. I become part of the true present and this is where I find my quiet mind. It is within this quiet place I find healing and am able to create a beautiful life.
That’s why I began using meditation with my clients. Early on in my private practice I discovered at the end of the sessions, my clients were in a balanced and receptive state for positive change in their lives. I began using short guided meditations at the end of sessions to ground positive change into their bodies and open their lives to the abundance that always surrounds us.
Quickly, my clients and I noticed how effective this process had become. It is through meditation that each of us can connect with our deepest desires and needs. The more you stay in touch with these needs or desires, the quicker they can manifest in your life. You become your highest self and begin living your best life every day.
What’s all this talk about “manifesting abundance and prosperity” and why, you may ask, is it not in your life today? The answer is simple. You haven’t found the path to allow abundance into your life. Maybe you have certain negative beliefs about money, maybe you don’t think you deserve it, or maybe you just haven’t thought you could manifest abundance into your life today. Well, you do deserve an abundant, beautiful life and you can manifest that life into reality with meditation.
As you grow up, you acquire belief systems through your experiences and the modeled behavior of the adults around you. Since many of us come from dysfunctional homes, it is quite possible that you have created certain belief systems or habits of thinking that bind you in unhealthy life patterns. You are always broke. Nothing ever works out. As a child, you needed these beliefs systems to explain and survive the world you were in, but now, you are no longer a child.
Now these “survival beliefs” are in fact sabotaging your life. You are not a very good partner in life if you have an underlining belief that, “Nothing ever works out.” Guess what? You will prove your self right time and again as nothing works out.
Try this exercise; think about all the things you want, that you don’t have right now. Love? Prosperity? New house? New car? Money? Anything…now, notice how you feel inside. You are feeling the lack, the cold empty spaces that begin to make you feel smaller and smaller. Isolated and trapped in your own unhappy experience of “Not enough,” as the list of all your unsatisfied wants increases.
Now imagine that you have in your life today, that which you seek. Say to yourself, “Abundance flows into my life easily and effortlessly. All my needs and wants are met today.” Take a breath and feel quiet peace relax your body. Balance returns. Notice where you feel this in your body. Warmth expands from the inside making you feel larger, more connected to today.
As you work with guided meditation, new beliefs begin taking the place of self-defeating thought patterns and you become more connected to your own thoughts. Instead of sabotaging your experiences with old beliefs, you actually become more present in your life. You are in charge of your thoughts, instead of your thoughts being in charge of you.
Finally, you will be empowered to make the best choices in your life for you, instead of reacting to the choices made by others. Through meditation you can become your highest self and manifest your best life into reality. As the saying goes, where your mind goes – your thoughts expand. Expand into your most abundant life
