In this guided meditation, you will be lead through a process of releasing negative energy with white light. Expect to feel relaxed, refreshed and balanced each time you listen to this meditation. Enjoy!
Do you ever feel like you are emotionally spinning?Maybe you have just had a difficult encounter with a relative or even a friend?You may be able to identify – this person drives me nuts, but the real question is, why?Why has this person been able to affect you?Chances are you have been “triggered.”
“Triggering” happens when some hidden emotional response is activated.My in-laws are professionals at this by using guilt to trigger emotional responses.For example, my husband’s parents will “talk” about each sibling to the other siblings trying to get them to speak to each other…”Oh, so-and-so, really does want to be more involved with your life, but he just doesn’t feel like you care enough…”This is an attempt by someone on the outside to “trigger” or force events in a certain way.
Even though my in-laws intentions are to bring the family closer, their manipulations stall any positive outcomes and actually inject more distance within the family structure.
Often you can identify “triggering” by how you feel inside…When someone or something is “triggering” you, you may feel a tightness in your stomach or chest.Your breathing may change.Things may feel more emotionally intense or you may even feel cornered into a certain defensive reaction.You are being “triggered.”
Now, no matter how well-adjusted and balanced you are today, each of us gets “triggered” every now and then.The trick is not to fear being triggered, but to manage your reaction to whatever happens to illicit an emotional response.So the real trick is, how to stop triggering?
You “trigger” because some place inside of you is feeling under attack.For example, my in-laws use guilt to “trigger” the idea of “being a good son, brother – a good son would call his brothers, visit more, etc.”The fact is my in-laws miss their family and want them to be close.Instead of stating this desire or want, they use manipulation to “make” it happen.They use passive aggressive tactics to avoid themselves getting “hurt” because when you overtly state your desires and wants to others, you make yourself vulnerable.You give others choice - they can choose to say, “No, I don’t want to do that,” and then what?
So, how to get from, “they drive me crazy - triggering,” to witnessing what is really going on, i.e. the in-laws miss their family.One technique I discovered years ago is “writing with God.”
Whenever you are feeling uncertain about things or are triggering, get a few sheets of paper out and begin writing with God.
For example:
Kelly:I hate my in-laws.They f*&5ing suck.If I have to hear another passive aggressive crap out of their mouth, etc…
God: Yes, they do suck.
Kelly:Yeah, they really suck. Why are they so crazy?Who tortures grown children this way?Etc, etc…
God: Kelly, they are sad and miss something that is lost to them. Etc…
(Notice rational voice begins entering the conversation in opposition to ego-centered defensive response.)
The fact is your ego is the “triggered” response.Using this technique allows you to release all your negative thoughts and comments – your ego defense, instead of the usual biting your lip and stuffing all these words deep inside.By using this technique, you are able to release your own negative reactions, thus begin to detach and witness truth – your highest self, your God-response is brought forth.This “higher” place is present inside you right now, waiting to lift you up, but first you have to release your “triggered-ego” by acknowledging the hurt and pain that is present first.
Give it a try…you will be surprised to discover your highest self is waiting, inside you right now, waiting to help you transform your life.Your highest self is the path to happiness and peace everyday.The choice is yours.
Guided meditation was at the center of my own personal transformation years ago.I discovered what was blocking me from my best life was my own self-sabotaging believes that cycled over and over in my mind, and body dooming me to repeat the same mistakes again and again.These beliefs stemmed from my own childhood – created as a way to survive a very dysfunctional environment.
For example, I have always struggled with “not enough.”What I remember of my childhood sucked – alcoholic, violent and little money.It is no wonder I had a “not enough” believe system.I learned from an infant, “there was never enough love, money, time, safety…”This ”not enough” belief carried over into my adulthood driving my choices and decisions in desperate ways.I became stressed, panicked and fearful…Then a therapist suggested guided meditation.
Through guided meditation I was able to “re-write” my thinking.It was like I had these old, negative tapes looping within myself and I needed new, positive messages to replace them.Listening to guided meditations daily allowing me the space and time to create a new, healthy inner dialog.
It took awhile and I kept at it.Before long I realized I liked these new beliefs.I liked seeing myself as lovable, capable, safe…and doors opened, opportunities appeared.My life transformed.
My two meditation series are a result of this transformation.They are really a step-by-step guided path out of a blocked life through meditation.I like creating spaces for you to discover specific issues that are blocking you today.And most importantly, to experience the process of healing over and over within the meditations - a healing that expands outward touching all aspects of your life.It is magic to discover the keys to all your dreams already waits inside – only to be revealed by you.
There are times in your life when you may feel as though you are stumbling through, destination unknown.Maybe you are.And then time passes and you begin to see the stumbling was really moving you forward to a truth or goal that had not yet been revealed.
Years ago I received great advice – take one step each day toward your goal.Of course, the “goal” may be defined differently during the many phases of your life, but it is that forward energy that is most important.This energy drives your ability to gently expand into your fullest self easily and effortlessly.
It’s ok that there are periods in your life when you are confused.In fact, expect it.But know this is a phase.As annoying as this truth is, confusion is an opportunity.Confusion usually stems from some need inside of you not being met whether you are consciously aware of this or not.
Try journaling or reading about places or people that attract you. Meditate. Talk to friends you admire.Listen to the compliments you are receiving in your life right now.And most of all - move toward your dreams and goals – no matter what they are.
One step, each day.Read an article.Make a phone call. Send an email.Take a class. Create something.
When you focus on your goals and desires (even the fleeting ones!), you focus on what you want in life – not a negative, self-defeating idea of what you don’t want.Your thoughts direct your words and your words create your deeds.Your deeds are your life.
It all begins at the same place – choice.Free will.You chose to take that step each day or not.So, what are your thoughts creating in your life today?Is it leading to your goals or not?
Spring is a great time to “smudge” your home or office.“Smudging” or “cleansing the space of all negative energies” can be done any time of the year.However, the Spring offers a certain kind of “forward energy” that can enhance any kind of intention or endeavor.
According to Eastern medicine, the energy of the Spring is “anger, a pushing through, sometimes even violent.”This energy is required for new life to burst up through the ground – pushing the earth away, thus clearing the space for new life to grow.Maybe you have noticed in your own life Spring is a time rebirth and renewal?Maybe even new opportunities appear regularly during this season for you?
Smudging your home or office at this time helps to create more opportunities in your life today as well as setting an intention for the months ahead.First, clean your home.If you really want to maximize the positive effects of smudging, go through your closets and drawers too – giving away anything you have not worn or used in the past year.
Some people like to sell their old clothes/stuff – fine and beneficial, however, I invite you to donate the items if you can afford too (it is a tax write-off too!) This act creates more positive energy for you because it activates a generous spirit and a feeling of plenty within.
What to smudge your home with?I like to use Holy Wood just because I like the scent best – “brings the woods indoors.”Some like Sage and others use rosewater, it really doesn’t matter.It is the intention that is most important, not the scent.Pick something that you have an immediate positive reaction to – that is the best indicator.
Stand at your front door and begin saying something like…”I clear this room of all negative energies - to go back into the light from which it was born…This room now attracts love, joy, wealth, abundance, good health…”As you speak these words, light your smudge stick and walk along the walls of the room.The idea is to remove all negative energy from the room first and then replace these empty spaces with new positive energy of love and happiness.
When I “clear” homes and offices, this is when I “see” images that are stuck or blocking positive energies.If this happens for you, just send these thoughts and images into the light to be cleared as well.You may even notice “solutions” to problem areas in your home as you smudge the rooms.
Don’t worry about your exact words you speak as much as the idea of clearing first each room and then setting the intention of what you want the room (your life) to attract.
Once you have smudged all areas of your home, you can also smudge the yard if you so feel compelled.Otherwise go back into your house.Play some great music.Have something yummy to drink & eat and dream…Dream about the life you desire to unfold in your home.See the love, hope, possibilities - all these for you, waiting for you to step into…And most of all – have fun.
Trust.The word “trust” sits on my desk in a small, silver frame.I see it over and over all day long, reminding me, “trust.”Sometimes I still struggle with trust – hence the reminder on my desk.
Sometimes just looking at the word calms me, but sometimes it frustrates me and I begin spinning.Spinning because I feel like something is “not enough.”Not enough money, not enough love, not enough truth, whatever – it remains “not enough.”Being an action-oriented person, I act.I can’t stay still as this “not enough” feeling is like drowning to me.It’s been a very long time, but I’ve notice recently, I’ve begun spinning again.
I’ve come up close to this “drowning” feeling again and this time, I’ve stayed with it.I discovered this drowning feeling is really sadness.Sadness that makes me feel.Yes, feel.When I am spinning and “acting out” - I fool myself with the illusion of being in control.I don’t have feel when I am moving, however, when I eventually stop as we all must, I feel even worse.
The avoiding of the sadness magnifies the emotions more painfully.The disappointments are more crushing.The resentments are bigger and the unresolved issues grow…But this time – I have felt the sadness.Maybe not at first, but sooner, and instead of running the other way, I’ve stayed with the sadness to discover more about myself and how not to be in this same place again.
Life is full of opportunities and not all of them come with a “smiley face.”Sometimes it is in the disappointments the greatest clarity is found.You see who you are and what you believe.And if you can stop “spinning” - you discover “trust.”
Trust in something bigger then you.Trust that unseen forces support you, even if it may not appear so at first glance.Trust that your highest self is stretching to reveal itself again and again.Trust, I bid you, Trust.
What is truth?Is it a reality or a perception?Can anyone know your truth?I ask these questions not really sure of the answers.This has been a very upsetting week for me.A dear friend is being persecuted by a few in authority with their own agenda.
It’s yucky.And I of course, being true to myself and my red hair, am outraged and vocal.What is interesting to me is how many people want you to be quiet.Just go along.I’ve never been good at that.I’m good at speaking up for those who don’t have a voice and if this means I lose a few so called friends – fine by me.
I need to look at myself in the mirror every day and know I am doing my best.I am passionate about my life, my family, my friends and my spirituality.This is both good and bad.I can be hurt by my own speed as I run to someone’s defense, and unfortunately – this isn’t popular with those who want to keep a certain story as fact.Oh, well.
So I encourage you – do you need to stand up today?Do not worry about the slings and arrows that will a surely come your way.Hold fast to the truth and walk on.Yes, you may feel the sharp daggers of those who would keep you quiet, but you’ll be better for it on the other side.
This is called building character.This is important.This is who you are as you walk through life and encounter “kings and fools.”Who do you want to be?Someone who shrinks from confrontation?Or someone who tried and stood for something?I will take the latter.Bring on the fools as I know they will come and I will disarm them with my unwavering truth.
I read this book on New Year’s Eve/Day and I was surprised.My husband had given the book to me as a Christmas gift.I had never heard of it before, but my husband has a way of knowing my heart – so I gave it a try…
Interestingly, I really enjoyed the book when I read it and have referred several friends and clients to it, but now that I look at the book in hand – again, I’m surprised…Upon my first reading a couple months ago, I was fascinated by her many different techniques to bring intuition and spirit more present in you life.I still am and think some techniques are very useful.
However, as I look at the chapter titles, I remember nothing of her words, her beliefs.Well, actually one part of her writing does stand out and always will – her discovered root meaning of the word magic is “to bring light to.”Being also a lover of words and magic – this definitely resonated with me and gave her writing voice authority as I continued to read.
I don’t think less of the book; I am just reminded that what is important will rise up.Yes, now that I reflect further, she did reveal a bit about her life and how she came to her beliefs, but it is the techniques to incorporate magic into your daily life that is the importance of the writing.
I encourage anyone interested in living a more magical life to read this book and even try out a few of her techniques – like me, you will be surprised.
About fifteen years ago I was first introduced to Flower Essences.I had been in chronic pain for over a year due to a car accident and I was a mess.I had tried to find relief through regular western medicine, but this only lead to more pills.Seeking alternative treatments, I found a healer who introduced me to flower essences and what lay beyond physical pain – the emotions.
I discovered to find true healing I needed to address not only the physical pains, but also the emotional scars that were at its foundation.This is when Flower Essence Remedies entered my life.Flower Essence Remedies are based on the concept that food is for your body as flowers are for your soul…
Bach Flower Essences were first created by British physician, Dr. Edward Bach, in the 1930s.Bach was treating returning soldiers from WWI for their wounds and unfortunately, many were not getting better.He discovered you had to go beyond the outward signs of physical pain/injury to the emotional traumas still held within the mind and spirit to find true healing.
Flower Essences are derived from the flowering parts of plants.The essence holds the life force of that plant and its specific qualities.For example, I think everyone has heard of the calming effects of lavender.Or even that mistletoe’s meaning is “all heal” and is still used today to treat cancer.Bach rediscovered the forgotten knowledge of flowers that was surely passed down through the ages - only lost for awhile during the crush of 19th century modernization.
Flower Essences are not to be taken to relieve the physical symptoms of injury, but as support.Flower Essences add support to your process – they strengthen your ability to work through conflicts, challenges or obstacles on your journey to wellness.Sometimes the remedies will actually create the space where you may even feel discomfort more acutely as to “clear” this trauma.
A remedy usually last about a month, four drops - four times a day.I like to think of it as a full cycle. When you first take the flower remedy you may feel “better” for a day or so before the clearing begins…and then there becomes a heightened awareness of certain annoyances, fights, unsaid words, old patterns that keep coming up over and over until finally you are dealing with your real issue.It may not feel great, but its necessary to finally be free of this issue and now you have the resources within to make the shift and heal.
I use Flower Remedies all the time with my clients and in my own life – my kids love them!They are non-toxic and safe.It is really another blanket of support you can give yourself, any time – gentle, hopeful and full of possibilities, like the blossoms they are…So be it. Some Flower Essences to think about…
Learn how Flower Remedies can support you and your life.With noted writer, speaker and coach, Amy Casey, I discuss the origins of the Bach Flower Essence series, how remedies work and how to use them in your life.Amy also discusses how Flower Essences can be effective with your pets too.
Amy helps people discover and use their unique intuitive gifts in all areas of life. She specializes in animal communication, health and wellness. You can find her at http://www.pethealthfocus.com.Enjoy the podcast!
