Are you Achieving your goals? Do you know how to Manifest dreams into reality? Join us on Indie Spirit Thurs at 11 am EST as we discuss achieving goals and the ‘how-to’s’ of manifesting. Learn simple techniques to shift thinking as we meditate, laugh, share new ideas and indie music. Come, join the Circle on Indie Spirit!

New Year, New Beginnings – What’s stopping you from getting the life that you want?  Join us all January on Indie Spirit as we JUMP-START a NEW YOU. Discover new tools to transcend blocks/old patterns. Finally begin living the Life of your dreams…Thurs, 11 am EST on Indie Spirit

Are you grieving? Have you suffered a loss? Are you looking to connect to the other side?  Join us on Indie Spirit, Thurs @ 11 am EST as we explore ‘Peace and the Other Side.’ It is a very thin line that separates us from those who have past. We can still connect to their spirits if we know how…Discover easy techniques to transcend this thin line.

Meditation.  Laughter.  Indie Music.  Peace.  Join us.

Do you have a Holiday Hangover?  Are you stressed-out and overwhelmed with Hanukah, Christmas and New Year’s coming up fast?  Stop and join us on Indie Spirit as we laugh, meditate and discover common sense solutions to life’s ups and downs.  Don’t miss out on the Moon/Energy Report – New Moon on the 5^th and Mercury is going retrograde soon…Indie Spirit Radio Show @ Thursday, 11 am EST.

There are moments in each of our lives when we see things clearly.  We get it.  We understand the ‘why is this happening?’ immediately.  Clarity.  However what you choose to do in those moments is the transformational part.  Do you seize the clarity and right your path, or do fears bind you to the same?

Fears of ‘can I do it?’ or ‘what if I make a mistake?’  ‘What will people think?’  Or could it be that physical or emotional pain ties you to a past that just won’t allow for true happiness?

Surprisingly clarity can be the result of making all the right moves or all the wrong moves.  Clarity can show up at 2 am or three years from now…the only truth you can expect from clarity is – it shows up when you least expect it.  And you feel it from deep within because it’s the truth.

Some people hide at these moments.  They talk themselves out of the truth that is staring them in the face.  For clarity is usually inconvenient.  Decisions need to be made and clarity is just staring at you, almost taunting you.  The other aspect of clarity that you can discover is, it’s about freedom.  It’s a moment of free will.  No controlling or putting a lid on things works at these moments – they are raw.  That’s when things can get messy, for awhile and then…something more.  Fuller living.

Often we want to think our way through life.  Follow a plan.  But life doesn’t like to follow a plan; it’s much sticky than that.  So you wander through life, bumping into the reality that you can’t think your way out of anything, no matter how hard you try.  No matter how late you stay up, no matter how many re-plays in your mind…You can’t think your way out of anything.

However, if you use a mind, body and spirit approach – well the opportunities are endless.  This is where clarity is born, from listening to your intuition, your passions and your heart.  Amazingly this is also when you discover the possibilities for happiness are endless too…

For the next 24 hours try this exercise – speak your life into being.  Speak as though the life you desire is unfolding right now.  For example, want a new job?  For the next 24 hours say to yourself, I have a new job – it’s fantastic.  I can’t believe it – just fell into my lap.  Feel this new job.  Think about the new office, maybe your desk is there – what photos are on the desk?

Or maybe you are lonely and want a fuller life.  What if you began saying to yourself – people like being around me.  I get invited places.  People feel good when they are around me.  I have good friends.

Or possibly you feel overwhelmed, stressed and are looking for support.  What if you said to yourself, support shows up, unbelievably when and where  I least expected it.  Feel how good it would be to feel supported, feel a lending hand enter your life…

Just give it a try and let the magic unfold – opportunities appear and doors open when you believe…What have you got to lose, but everything to gain????

Has your life been affected by an AFFAIR? Do they matter?  Why do they happen? Is Forgiveness possible?  Join us on Indie Spirit This Thursday, 10/14, as we discuss Affairs and Relationships on Blogtalkradio @ 11 am EST.  Discover what is possible with tips, meditation and more than a few laughs…Come, join in the chat. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/indieonair

Can you allow your life to be easier?  If you start rebelling at this very notion as to the reasons why your life can’t get easier, well, this is for you…

Stop.  Just stop with the problem-making.  Take a deep breath in, down into your stomach and let the breath go.  Ok, one more deep breath in and let go.  Feel your feet connected to the floor.  Press your feet down a little, allowing yourself to feel the support beneath you.  You are right here, right now. 

What do you need to get done today?  Be realistic.  Start a daily list, but only allow yourself to put eight to ten tasks on it – the rest can wait ‘til tomorrow.  If need be make a couple lists, what needs to be done today, and what needs to be done this week (can be longer.)

When you start organizing your life, it’s amazing how much more time you can create!

What are healthy boundaries?  Are friends, Family, co-workers taking advantage of you? Are you doing too much?  Discover simple tips to create better boundaries and start taking care of YOU. Join us Thurs @ 11 am EST on Blogtalk for tips, meditation, indie music and laughs. Bring some friends.

WTF kind of question is that, right?  There is no allusive “normal.”  Each marriage has it’s own unique rules and unspoken boundaries of behavior.  The real questions to be answered; are you happy?  Is your marriage working?  What can you do to make it better today?

 It’s time to stop looking over the fence at someone else’s life with envy – sure the grass may look greener over there, but it could be just a trick of lighting or it could be that over the fence, they have been working at it…Happy marriages don’t occur like magic – time, compromise, forgiveness and commitment create the foundation for a lasting, fulfilling marriage.  It’s complicated.

 Each person enters a marriage with flaws – that’s everyone, there are no perfect people.  True love and intimacy is not created from a string of good times linked together.  No, real intimacy/love is discovered when you see not only your own faults, but your partner’s too and it’s still ok.  Can you love yourself and your partner flaws and all? 

This isn’t easy. 

 Some flaws are ‘deal-breakers’ – violence, abuse, etc…but in most cases people are being human – fools one day, and saints the next.  Whatever your biggest issue is with your partner, it’s actually about you not them.  When you look at the issue again – what truth reflects back?  What’s your stuff?

 For example an old fight my husband and I had for several years of was about time – he always ran late.  I can’t tell you how many arguments we had about this and ultimately I discovered the final solution – I had to let go of time.  What???  How can this be??  He’s late.

 Well first, let’s begin with reality – he ran usually about half hour late, getting home around 6 – 6:15 pm.  I thought he should be home at 5:30 pm, he agreed in word but not deed.  Hence each day had a built in argument as I would watch the clock for tardiness every afternoon.  I could feel the anxiety begin rising about 4 pm and it would spiral up with varied unhappy outcomes.

 Then I got a clue – a friend challenged my version of reality – where did I get this magic time to be home by?  Ummm, well that’s what a happy family looks like, right?  Supper on the table by 6 pm, tubby time, story books and bed.  Her response – who do you know that really looks like this?  Ummm, nobody. 

 Her response – sounds like you have to change the picture to make it work.  Thunderbolt – I was holding onto an ‘idea’ of what it looks like to be a happy family, because my own childhood was so chaotic.  It was a picture I create from a wounded place.

 I had to let go of my imagined magic time for his arrival and decided to call a friend at 5pm instead of getting angry, again.  I began distracting myself from the time each day.  When my husband sailed in around 6pm, I was fine, no arguments, easy.

 Here’s the funny thing, my husband started coming home earlier and he became annoyed that I would be chatting on the phone instead of waiting for him…He was used to fighting every day about something, so if I didn’t start it, he would.  Deep breathing all around and some clear communication helped us get out of this dynamic. 

 Of course the issue of time still comes up, but now I see it for what it is – control.  If I control time, I control life – in reality, not so much. 

 But really, let’s get back to you – Are you Happy with your partner?  What are you struggling with in your marriage/relationship and do you need to change your picture?