What are healthy boundaries? Are you not supposed to feel for another’s pain? Are you not supposed to help out? Is offering advice bad?
Here’s how you can quickly identify healthy boundaries – check in with your stomach and heart. When you are tilting towards unhealthy there is an emotional pull you can actually feel from your stomach and/or heart. It’s almost like an energy rope pulling or sucking you in a certain direction (I must save them! I have to step in!) There is desperate feeling in the air.
With healthy boundaries you feel grounded, maybe your feet even feel heavy. Your heart may still hurt for someone, but it is more like a squeeze then an uncontrollable pull.
It’s not usually the specific activity that identifies something as unhealthy but the emotions that are driving the support/boundary. Sometimes people really do need extreme support offered by you, but the cost does not have to be your well-being.
How to do keep healthy boundaries? By taking care of you every day. That means checking in with yourself daily; eating and sleeping well; laughing; using humor when all else fails and when you feel that negative energetic pull, that’s your queue to consciously ground your energy down. Down through your feet until you feel a sense of balance return.
So, are you feeling grounded today?
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